18 Going on 21

It’s amazing how little we change in the beginning years of life. Yes we learn a lot and grow, but we are children for a long time, emotionally that is.  I was thinking and decided I would segment age groups into, well, age groups.

0-2 Baby – In this stage of life you pretty much learn how to be a human. You learn to walk, talk, and right from wrong. Also known as the beginning of the “terrible twos”. Although this is entirely arbitrary.

3-5 Toddler – I would classify toddler different from baby just on the sole fact of education.  At this point in the child’s life they are most likely in some sort of school, preschool is more or less what they are in. They can be called other things, however preschool is the most common.

5-14 Kid – At this point, you are a kid. Just a school going, manner learning, run of the mill kid. All the time in the world filled with the hope life treats your right.  I go to 14 just because the “teenager syndrome” seems to start to set in at about 15. The age group where the adults go “oh this generation doesn’t do anything like we did”

15-19 Teenager – Some would say only go to 18 because by that point you are an adult by law. However “by law” is a very foggy term anyways because almost anyone can be tried as an adult in court if you do something against the law. I think if you are treated as an adult you are considered an adult.

20 and up: Adult – At this point you are an adult. You pay taxes, pay bills, and are on your own in the world.  Free to do as you please with no repercussions other then what happens when you break the law.  Nothing can stop you from doing what you want, but you can seriously regret your decision making.

So why the list? Pretty much a classification on change.  You are pretty much the same person from a baby to a kid, and from a kid to mid teens, and are a teenager to you decide to buck up and be an adult.  Looking back at my life I noticed I didn’t change according to the list. I considered myself mature for my age and not doing the radical things kids in my age group were doing.  It just never appealed to me. At the age I am now I changed to most from 18 to 21. Those three years I seemingly learned more than I did the rest of my life.

I would say even though going from 18 to 21 is an extremely short period of time in life, it is the most valuable. It may seem like a big gap, but that’s only 3 years. It boggles my mind thinking how in only 3 years I could change so much as a person

Not only did I learn a lot about life in general, not necessarily educationally related, but maturity as well.  Caring about different things is what changed the most. At 18 I couldn’t have cared less who went into a political office.  “Oh, it wont effect me” I would say, blatantly disregarding everything my adult peers would tell me.  I would try to care, but it was boring to me.  Then at 21 I saw how it mattered, and I actually started to care, I started to understand more.

Caring.  It was an emotion I didn’t fully understand. Nothing appealed to me, nothing held value. The world was dark, and anything I did was futile.  Sentiment wasn’t something I was fond of either.  You have an item that is only worth something to you. If you tried to sell said item you would have a hard time because of “feelings”.  Still a foreign concept to me but I understand why it exists and how to overcome if you lose or the item breaks. Oddly enough it’s from Buddhism and the quote roughly goes

     “You see this goblet? For me this glass is already broken. I enjoy it; I drink out of it. It holds my water admirably, sometimes even reflecting the sun in beautiful patterns. If I should tap it, it has a lovely ring to it. But when I put this glass on the shelf and the wind knocks it over or my elbow brushes it off the table and it falls to the ground and shatters, I say, ‘Of course.’ When I understand that the glass is already broken, every moment with it is precious.”

This is the quote that distinguished sentiment from everything else.  Attitude towards life can be hard. Take life a day at a time, look at your past self to quicker mature yourself in the future, and all in all be the best you can be. If you are young now you will understand later, no matter how much you defy and say the change from now till later wont be much. You will be wrong.  You can say nay to that, but just know.  I called it.

 

~TJ~

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